Family Secrets

Winner of the Forkosch Prize of the American Historical Association, 2014
Winner of the North American Conference on British Studies’ Stansky Prize, 2014
"Public Pick," Public Books, 2013
"Book of the Year," 2013 -- the Spectator, The Sunday Times, and the Times Literary Supplement

 

In an Edinburgh town house, a genteel maiden lady frets with her brother over their niece’s downy upper lip.  Would the darkening shadow betray the girl’s Eurasian heritage?  On a Liverpool railway platform, a heartbroken mother hands over her eight-year old illegitimate son for adoption.  She had dressed him carefully that morning in a sailor suit and cap.  In a town in the Cotswolds, a vicar brings to his bank vault a diary – sewed up in calico, wrapped in parchment – that chronicles his sexual longings for other men.

Drawing upon years of research in previously sealed records, Deborah Cohen offers a sweeping and often surprising account of how shame has changed over the last two centuries.  

Both a story of family secrets and of how they were revealed, this book journeys from the frontier of empire, where British adventurers made secrets that haunted their descendants for generations, to the confessional vanguard of modern-day genealogy two centuries later.  It explores personal, apparently idiosyncratic, decisions:  hiding an adopted daughter’s origins, taking a disabled son to a garden party, talking ceaselessly (or not at all) about a homosexual uncle.  Cohen excavates the tangled history of privacy and secrecy to explain why privacy is now viewed as a hallowed right while secrets are condemned as destructive.

In delving into the familial dynamics of shame and guilt, FAMILY SECRETS investigates the part that families, so often regarded as the agents of repression, have played in the transformation of social mores from the Victorian era to the present day.  Written with compassion and keen insight, this is a bold new argument about the sea-changes that took place behind closed doors.

Press Reviews

Review in the Express

Friday, January 11, 2013
The Daily Express
Viv Watts

"scandalous content and interesting revelation"

In a league table of difficult daughters the memorably named Annie Cheese would have been in the first division.

Married at 19 to a dissolute Captain Lloyd, against the wishes of her respectable magistrate father, Annie lost her head when Lloyd landed in jail for debt just three years after the wedding.

While visiting him in prison she met his friend George Chichester and after Lloyd went to jail for a third time she ran away with George to Paris, had an illegitimate child and Captain Lloyd promptly sued for divorce.